There’s no easy breakup and nobody wants to go through it unless it’s necessary, especially when we’ve been so invested in the relationship and tried absolutely everything to never experience the end. The truth is, there comes a point where enough is enough and you shouldn’t keep fighting for someone who’s not learning from past mistakes and is comfortable being less than what you truly deserve.
You might conjure up every possible rationalization for his lack of effort to continue staying with him, but nothing can change the fact that he’s not going to change, the relationship won’t change. It’s over and the best thing for you to do is walk away and move on.
Yes, It’s hard to admit that no matter how much you loved this person, it didn’t seem to be enough for him to love you back. You gave him the “patience and understanding” that he asked for. Allowed endless chances to do the right thing, to change his ways and be fair to you and the relationship, but he didn’t.
You even took some of the responsibility because you didn’t want to seem pushy and overly dramatic. You catered to his needs because you thought that your unconditional love would change him. You thought he was worthy so you tried your hardest to make things work. You gave him the benefit of the doubt, you were patient, kind and understanding.
The thing is, the relationship might have been doomed from the beginning. He is who he is, who he’s always been and wants to always be and he never had the intention to change. You loved this person so much, you became blind to all the signs that were clearly telling you that he was going to step all over your heart. Unfortunately, he was never going to be the one for you.
You were in love with the idea of him, you were not in love with him. So, everything that you think you’re missing about him is not real. The truth is, he couldn’t possibly be the man of your dreams if he didn’t measure up to your ideal.
He didn’t appreciate you, so he didn’t treat you with the loyalty and respect that you deserve. So, when you think of him, remember that he was never capable of changing. He was never going to be able to be the person that was going to make you feel whole.